Ok, this post is not really about fighting, it’s more about conflict resolution, but let me just start with what NOT to do! Both men and women make some mistakes with conflict. Ladies, pay attention, now... First, know this: If there’s one thing that strikes fear into the hearts of men everywhere, ...read more
Archives for December 2014
The Conditions For Healing After An Affair
The unthinkable has occurred. One spouse betrayed the other. It was an affair, a “fling,” and office romance, a one-night stand, or “just one of those things…” In any case, it was unforgiveable. Or was it? You might be surprised to learn how many couples try to repair their relationship after an ...read more
The Common Cure For Resentment is Responsibility (but it’s not what you think!)
Jane was delighted that she had the afternoon off work. She had carefully arranged for a colleague to cover her at the office so she could get some much-needed Christmas shopping in. Christmas was in two weeks and the family still didn’t have the tree up, let alone any presents under it! The ...read more
The Number One Reason Couples End Up In Therapy
More than any other reason, people come to me for help because of this one problem. If you guessed “Communication,” you’re right! It’s the most common issue that drives a wedge between people. Not feeling heard and understood turns an otherwise healthy relationship in to a barren wasteland of ...read more
