Archives for January 2015

“We’re Just SO Different!”

January 29, 2015 by Sonja Benson, Ph.D 4 Comments

Why is it that the person you fall in love with is often completely different from you? You like to amble through life smelling the roses, and your partner moves at the speed of light. You’re gregarious and easy going, and your spouse is quiet and ultra productive. Yet, you are both attracted to ...read more

Filed Under: Healthy Relationships, Managing Conflict, Relationship Problems Tagged With: communication, conversation, criticism, fighting fair, healthy relationships, irreconcilable differences, long-term relationship, loving relationships, marriage problems, relationship problems, relationships, sonja benson, talk it out

Irreconcilable Differences: Are They For Real?

January 23, 2015 by Sonja Benson, Ph.D 38 Comments

Over 20 years as a therapist, I’ve met many couples that are unable to work things out, even with therapy on their side. But it’s not the fault of therapy. Truth be told, I’ve met very few couples with truly irreconcilable differences. The numbers of people who come to therapy as a last-ditch effort ...read more

Filed Under: Healthy Relationships Tagged With: commitment, couples therapy, group coaching, healthy relationships, irreconcilable differences, long-term relationship, marriage counseling, relationships, resilience, resilient relationships

The REAL Butterfly Effect: Metamorphosis

January 15, 2015 by Sonja Benson, Ph.D 3 Comments

Being a busy mom, wife and professional relationship saver, I don’t usually end up having a lot of time to follow blogs. There are one or two, however, that are worth watching, so I take the time to read them. Momastery, by Glennon Melton, is one of those gems. Recently, she revisited a blog about ...read more

Filed Under: Healthy Relationships, Real Life Tagged With: butterfly love, couples, divorce, Glennon Melton, hollywood love, infatuation, long-term relationship, marriage, Momastery, relationships

When Parents Disagree — The Effects of Different Parenting Styles on Your Relationship

January 8, 2015 by Sonja Benson, Ph.D 14 Comments

Nothing brings out differences between two people more than a new baby. From the moment you walk into the house with your first child, you discover that you and your spouse are a team working for the common goal of nurturing and raising another human being. Suddenly teamwork becomes crucial just to ...read more

Filed Under: Parenting Tagged With: children, couples counseling, healthy relationships, marriage problems, new baby, parenting, parenting solutions, parenting styles, relationship problems, teamwork

Six Building Blocks Of Healthy Relationships

January 1, 2015 by Sonja Benson, Ph.D 2 Comments

Healthy, secure, loving, confident children: it’s a parent’s greatest hope. The path our children follow to become an adult is peppered with challenges and uncontrolled emotions. As Susan Stiffelman points out in her book Parenting Without Power Struggles, children want and need the security of a ...read more

Filed Under: Healthy Relationships, Keep Love Alive, Real Life Tagged With: couples, intimacy, kind gestures, kindness, love, loving relationships, parenting, relationships, showing you care, sonja benson

“We’re Just SO Different!”

The REAL Butterfly Effect: Metamorphosis

When Parents Disagree — The Effects of Different Parenting Styles on Your Relationship

Six Building Blocks Of Healthy Relationships

Dr. Sonja Benson

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