Everyone of a certain age remembers what they were doing on 9/11/01. I remember it was a Tuesday, my late night as the employee assistance program (EAP) psychologist for Progressive Insurance in Tempe, AZ. My alarm woke me to the news and it was so unreal I thought it was still part of a dream. I ...read more
Managing Mood During Covid-19
Novel corona virus (Covid-19) has been creating upheaval throughout the whole world. Stress comes from not knowing what to fully expect all around. Protective and preventive measures can feel isolating, as well as create anxiety around money and kids. Schools are closing for unknown periods of ...read more
Self Care is Not Selfish
How many of us see self care as being selfish? Especially women? What's going on that taking care of oneself, if you are female, is somehow considered a bad thing? Almost a dirty word? Maybe it's work ethic. Mom guilt? Perhaps it's juggling too many roles at once trying to do it all. Women ...read more
Managing Stress When Life Gets Hectic
Life can be pretty stress filled anymore. Schedules are packed. The news is terrible much of the time. More and more the workplace seems to demand doing what used to be two people's workload. Even social calendars can be a source of stress. Are the kids getting enough play dates? Are the adults ...read more
Users, Manipulators & Gaslighters: Dealing with Narcissism at Home, Work & Play
First, narcissism occurs on a continuum from healthy levels of self love to pathological views that "it's ONLY about me". Only the really more extreme levels meet criteria for narcissistic personality disorder. That's not to say that "lower level" narcissism doesn't create a lot of pain in every ...read more
Letting Go: How is THAT supposed to work?
Letting go is probably hard for most people. Or maybe that's just what those of us who struggle with it believe. Likely, some things are easier to let go of than others for almost everyone. As summer draws to a close, a whole slew of parents will face new levels of letting go. Some kids will be ...read more
Integrity: Toward a Whole and Consistent You
The definition of integrity covers two parts that sometimes seem to be talking about two different things. Integrity is "1) the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles, moral uprightness, and 2) the state of being whole, undivided." While many use the second definition to talk ...read more
Finding Balance in a Busy Life: Choose it Intentionally
Finding balance in the busy month of May can be a little challenging at times. School is getting close to being done for the year. That usually means recitals, programs, graduations, parties, thank you gifts and cards to all the people in the kids' lives, finishing some sports and starting ...read more
Infidelity: Handling the Early Disclosure after Affairs.
For most people, committed relationships mean monogamous relationships. Outside people have no place in the emotional or sexual space of the partnership. Yet affairs happen. According to one source, 41% of marriages have one or both partners admitting to infidelity (either emotional or ...read more
Are Kids’ Parties Too Over the Top?
I will start by admitting I'm an old parent with young-ish kids so when I was experiencing birthday parties as a kid it was the 1970s. I don't know about other parents but the parties we feel compelled to throw for our kids and the parties they attend are generally very different than those in the ...read more
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