For most people, committed relationships mean monogamous relationships. Outside people have no place in the emotional or sexual space of the partnership. Yet affairs happen. According to one source, 41% of marriages have one or both partners admitting to infidelity (either emotional or ...read more
Giving the Benefit of the Doubt
When a good friend tells you something came up and she has to cancel plans, what do you do? Do you make the worst case assumptions about the "real" reasons or are you good at giving the benefit of the doubt? Often, in friendship and in early dating, we are all better at giving the benefit of the ...read more
The Unique Stress of Infertility
You have found the person with whom you want to create a family. All your ducks are in a row and you are ready both emotionally and financially to be parents. The trying part is fun, right? Then so it goes, month after month being disappointed that there isn't going to be a baby. Infertility is ...read more
What To Do When One of You Might Want Out
Marriage is hard work. For the record, I’m including all relationships that are acting as married when I say this. Couples wait, on average, about 6 years into being troubled before they seek any help. That is, IF they seek help from a marriage counselor at all. As a result, sometimes it gets ...read more
What Men Don’t Know About Women and Sex (That Destroys the Intimacy They Desire)
All right, fair’s fair. I gave some advice the other day ... advice that most men would applaud when it comes to men and their sexual needs and desires. You can check out that post here. Now we turn the tables. (Men, have a seat.) Women’s sexuality is a little more complex. No surprise there. Women ...read more
What Women Don’t Know About Men And Sex (That Destroys The Intimacy They Desire)
At the end of this blog post, I’m going to suggest something that’s so controversial; many women are going to think I’m crazy to even suggest it. Even though this advice has saved hundreds of marriages. I’m only telling you what works based on what I’ve tried with my couples in therapy. It’s real ...read more