The unthinkable has occurred. One spouse betrayed the other. It was an affair, a “fling,” and office romance, a one-night stand, or “just one of those things…” In any case, it was unforgiveable. Or was it? You might be surprised to learn how many couples try to repair their relationship after an ...read more
The Common Cure For Resentment is Responsibility (but it’s not what you think!)
Jane was delighted that she had the afternoon off work. She had carefully arranged for a colleague to cover her at the office so she could get some much-needed Christmas shopping in. Christmas was in two weeks and the family still didn’t have the tree up, let alone any presents under it! The ...read more
The Number One Reason Couples End Up In Therapy
More than any other reason, people come to me for help because of this one problem. If you guessed “Communication,” you’re right! It’s the most common issue that drives a wedge between people. Not feeling heard and understood turns an otherwise healthy relationship in to a barren wasteland of ...read more
Worth Getting Angry: Three Ways To Deal With Anger Inside A Relationship
Do you sometimes get angry with people who are closest to you? Do you ever wonder why we often treat total strangers better than we treat our families and loved ones? When couples and family members are close, one partner may feel it’s “safe” to let go of their emotions when they’re feeling stressed ...read more
Four Communication Styles That Spell Trouble In Your Marriage
You know it when you see it. Maybe you’re having dinner with a couple of old friends you haven’t seen in awhile. Maybe you’re standing around chatting with another couple at the soccer field. Just a casual chat and you can practically sniff it out: the marriage that is on the rocks. Not headed for ...read more